PM etiquette

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Should you include your name in a PM, even to a stranger?

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PM etiquette

Post by MTP » Sat Jun 01, 2019 12:26 am

Over the years since becoming a member, when I send a PM, I'll include my first name. I view it more like an email, rather than an anonymous post and, unless it's a whole flame war, just basic courtesy.

This just doesn't seem to be case from some posters who have messaged me over the years (yes, there are some of the fanbase who want a more intimate relationship with the legend that is MTP).

What say we? Should there be a wee bit of courtesy on a professional forum or am I just being a grumpy sod?

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Re: PM etiquette

Post by eagle » Sat Jun 01, 2019 7:32 am

Depends ......

on who it is, if your name is distinctive, Archibald, and how neurotic you are.
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Re: PM etiquette

Post by felicity_james » Sat Jun 01, 2019 9:46 am

I think it depends on the nature of the PM and as Eagle says how likely a first name is likely to give away your whole real-life persona...and if you care

I really don't care if people stick to their forum names for all forum activity.

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Re: PM etiquette

Post by Rick Sanderson » Sat Jun 01, 2019 9:50 am

Etiquette generally wouldn't go amiss when PMing.

For example when you are selling something and all you get is "whats ur cheapest price", it doesn't warm you to people.
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Re: PM etiquette

Post by Herbert » Sat Jun 01, 2019 10:07 am

I tend to use my first name with longer term posters that I feel I know a bit through the forum, but not with newer posters.
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Re: PM etiquette

Post by lad_from_leeds » Sat Jun 01, 2019 10:37 am

I usually sign off with my first name but like Herb says, if it's someone I've no knowledge of might keep more incognito... Not keen on PM's being sent for stuff that either already has or easily could be discussed on the board #Trio #Diamond
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Re: PM etiquette

Post by sl » Sat Jun 01, 2019 4:06 pm

lad_from_leeds wrote:
Sat Jun 01, 2019 10:37 am
I usually sign off with my first name but like Herb says, if it's someone I've no knowledge of might keep more incognito... Not keen on PM's being sent for stuff that either already has or easily could be discussed on the board #Trio #Diamond
Hahahahaha. Wonder if we are all being asked the same questions!

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Re: PM etiquette

Post by Johnb » Sat Jun 01, 2019 4:27 pm

Well, my contribution to this debate is, it depends. I have never used my first name in a PM, (No it's not John) not that I have sent PM's to many people (three I think, and they were replies to their PM). I would not want to use my real name. I have received PM's though, some nice, some not so, including abuse/profanities etc via PM's. So, overall I am happier being under the radar.
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Re: PM etiquette

Post by Herbert » Sat Jun 01, 2019 5:50 pm

sl wrote:
Sat Jun 01, 2019 4:06 pm
lad_from_leeds wrote:
Sat Jun 01, 2019 10:37 am
I usually sign off with my first name but like Herb says, if it's someone I've no knowledge of might keep more incognito... Not keen on PM's being sent for stuff that either already has or easily could be discussed on the board #Trio #Diamond
Hahahahaha. Wonder if we are all being asked the same questions!
Guess so!
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Re: PM etiquette

Post by rimlessglasses » Sat Jun 01, 2019 7:40 pm

Just make up a name, nobody is any the wiser.

Lots of love
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Re: PM etiquette

Post by Johnb » Sun Jun 02, 2019 10:15 am

rimlessglasses wrote:
Sat Jun 01, 2019 7:40 pm
Just make up a name, nobody is any the wiser.

Lots of love
Barry
I did

Regards,

John
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Re: PM etiquette

Post by Karen » Sun Jun 02, 2019 10:26 am

The only place I go to any length to hide myself is the 11+ forum. That place is brutal.

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Re: PM etiquette

Post by Mark312 » Mon Jun 03, 2019 12:30 pm

Johnb wrote:
Sun Jun 02, 2019 10:15 am
rimlessglasses wrote:
Sat Jun 01, 2019 7:40 pm
Just make up a name, nobody is any the wiser.

Lots of love
Barry
I did

Regards,

John
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Re: PM etiquette

Post by Mark312 » Mon Jun 03, 2019 12:31 pm

I use first name to anyone I pm.
Started out with nothing. Still got most of it left.

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Re: PM etiquette

Post by eagle » Mon Jun 03, 2019 1:35 pm

Mark312 wrote:
Mon Jun 03, 2019 12:31 pm
I use first name to anyone I pm.
Fair enough Mark.
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